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Shadows of Childhood in an Adult Life

"And when they were come into the ship, the wind ceased. Then they that were in the ship came and worshiped him, saying, Of a truth thou art the Son of God" (Matthew 14:32-33 AV).

There are many lessons to be learned from the incident of Peter coming to Christ on the water in the middle of the storm. I think it is significant that in this passage we see the disciples forget the miracle, and the fear they had just moments before, and focus on the who, not what of the Lord. This is what we must constantly remember, our Lord is God, the Creator and Sustainer of all things, both visible and invisible.

Life in many ways can be compared to a sea. As there is no sea that does not at times experience a storm, so it is with life. The pop-psychology of the day points the finger at the past, and places the blame for human condition upon parent or circumstance from some bygone day.

There is enough truth here until even the church has bought into the lie of Satan and attempts to explain away sin because of the circumstance that forced the person into sin. This is especially true for those who were abused as children, or faced other extreme and adverse circumstances in their childhood. The fear of the child has been brought forward into adult life.

I think most of us can remember being afraid as a child, and seeking another person to sleep with, and then staying close to the middle of the bed, because for some unknown reason we felt safer away from the edge of the bed. For many this fear not only continued into adulthood, it still controls their lives. It may not be readily identified by the individual involved, but, in life they stay away from the edge, afraid to reach out.

Just as Christ came to His disciples that dark night in the middle of the storm, so He will come to you in your storms today. No matter where these storms began, as a child or adult, the Lord Jesus Christ is with you. It is natural for us to feel safer when in the presence of another. It doesn’t seem to matter that the other is no more able to help in the situation than the one who is afraid, the presence of another brings comfort. Perhaps you know a mother who is literally frightened to death to be alone, especially at night. Yet, add an infant and all is clam, they can tolerate the dark, or isolation that comes from being alone at night. Logic here will fail to provide the answer. We are by nature creatures that were made to touch and be touched, to love and be loved.

I share the following only with the clarification that I am not speaking about eternal salvation, that was decided before the foundation of the earth, in the eternal election by God. However I am talking about the tangible presence of the Lord in your daily life, a feat that is only possible by the elect of God. Christ is gentle and undemanding. He will not thrust Himself into the forefront of your life. In this respect you do invite Christ to not only be in your life, but to control your life. The recognition of Christ as God, and worshiping Him alone brings Him near in the storms in our lives. He is a very tangible and real presence in the darkness of life. He cannot and will not ever leave you alone, except for a season for your own good, that you might know your constant need of Him both as Lord and Savior.

As believers we have a new life. The old person is as if dead and we are a new creation. The Holy Spirit does dwell within our hearts (Rom 5:5-8). The perfect love of God is made manifest to us. Here is the real tool to forget the fears of the past, and face current life victoriously. " There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love" (1 John 4:18 AV). "...Perfect love casts out fear." How fantastic that before the term psychologist existed, God had provided the answer for these past fears, Jesus Christ, God’s perfect love made flesh.

"Invite" Christ to openly dwell within your heart, and be Lord of your life. The Lordship of Christ is as important for daily living as the salvation of Christ is to eternal life. We can have both. However, let us not forget that God only blesses that we might be a blessing. Having learned this lesson, I think we are bound to share it with another. Think about all the relationships in your life. Which person you know is waiting for the invitation to walk with you through the darkness they know as life? To whom is God asking you to tell the story of His perfect love made flesh (visible)? It is crucial for this new life in Christ that we learn and apply the biblical principle that God does not bless except He would have us share the blessing with another.

With your hand in Christ’s hand, because God loves you, you can dare to sleep alone on the edge of the bed without fear. Because you are loved so completely (perfectly) you dare to love another. In Christ you can live without fear, and the storms of life aren’t quite as big, nor as fearsome as before. Because we obey Christ and share the blessing, the life of another need not be lived in fear nor darkness.

Whom do you say Jesus Christ is? What is Jesus Christ to you? How you answer these questions to a large extent will relate to how fearful of storms you are.

By: Dr. Chuck Baynard

 

 
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